Decisions Determine Destiny

by Robin Elliott on October 4, 2014


She sets goals to get fit and lose weight, but she won’t stop smoking. He decides to make money in his business but he refuses to run it on a full time basis, even when he can afford to do so. She claims to be a Christian, but she tradespeople, restaurant servers, and beggars like dirt. He wants to be successful in business but consistently shows up late for appointments.

Thomas S. Monson said, “Decisions determine destiny.” How true that is. But decisions are not an outward show of disassociated, haphazard actions; they are revealed by interlocking patterns of congruent actions. You don’t really intend to build a happy marriage while you flirt with barmaids and waitresses or neglect your wife in favour of golf or fishing.

Congruence reveals purpose and motive. In the dictionary, congruence is defined as agreement, harmony, conformity, correspondence, agreement, compatibility. Neale Donald Walsch wrote, “Every decision you make – every decision – is not a decision about what to do. It’s a decision about Who You Are.” Stephen Covey wrote, “Personal leadership is the process of keeping your vision and values before you and aligning your life to be congruent with them.” In fact, any decision that is not aligned with your values and innermost beliefs will not last; it is impotent.

If you want to know if you are personally serious about the goals you have set and claim to want to achieve, simply observe your consistent actions and listen to the words you use. And the same goes for others – looks for patterns over time. Talk is cheap. Anyone can start anything, and many do – persisting until you succeed is another thing altogether.

So when someone joins me in one of my business ventures, I listen carefully to the words they use, since words often reveal inner thoughts, doubts, intentions, and decisions. I make sure I can match them up with the right opportunities.

Consistency, persistency, reliability – these are the keys to success in any business, and every decision counts. Every action matters. And time is passing, never to come back. Get serious about yourself and your standards and about whom you team up with. Get clarity on what you want, why you want it, and what decisions will be required to achieve your goals.

Robin Elliott

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